Trauma is not a pretty word to say the least. Most often it is associated with great horrors of veterans. Yes, war traumas are usually the ones that can incapacitate a person, however, a very large percentage of our world is “triggered.” To be triggered one must first have an experience that changes the nervous system and then another that reminds the subject of the initial impact. Most of those triggered aren’t war veterans.
People that ride in cars, planes, trains, and on bikes can be triggered along with people that play sports. People that walk quickly down a busy city street or that watch TV and other media videos, and listen to the radio. People that were yelled at and people that have been abused can all be triggered in an instant from a past traumatic event.
Trauma is different for everyone, but it is a nervous system reaction that protect the person. The sympathetic nervous system is turned on when a situation similar to a past impactful event occurs. This causes the adrenal glands to secrete cortisol, raise blood sugar and lower metabolism. The raising of sugar actually protects the brain and other organs from ‘pickling’ from the adrenal cortisol ( mentioned in Anthony William's books), so understand that your body works to protect your brain with these changes on impact. After all you’re going to need your brain for the rest of your life, right?
Now what do we do with this? Think about your day:
For me it was abuse growing up. Maybe you experience verbal or physical abuse from “friends” or family. Maybe you don’t think of it as abuse because your own self-talk already beats you up.
Maybe you have been in a car accident. When I was in one, I was between two cars, I was pushed into one and then felt my perception start looking upward as if I was leaving my body. I think of that as my soul, ready to vacate if need be. Which at the time I was glad of because who knows; I may not have lived through it. To be conscious of bodily destruction…well what good is that? Thanks body and soul for continuing to protect.
So recap; trauma is widespread among people and affects the body. Most people can be triggered which technically means you could fall under Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or Post Traumatic Stress Reaction.
Questions to become mindful of your Mind-Body Connection:
In each instance of your day take a moment to tune into what your body is sensing. Try to acknowledge it and assert what it needs. Some people go for years ignoring their bodies, and then the body later makes large demands and refuses to operate with potentially lengthy illnesses. Try to understand that the natural flow of life is being in tune with the needs of your body, so that ALL of you can function happily.
How to heal:
I was 8 years old waking up from a day dream. Heart pounding I thought, "Where am I, who am I... why am I?"
The thoughts I was thinking were connected to something greater as if I were the floating thought itself and that I could be anywhere and anything at any time. It was almost difficult to come to terms with the fact that I was here on earth in that moment.
The idea that I was in it for the long hall and the only way out was death. It was scary, because the fate of all mortals is to eventually transition out of a physical body through the dreaded event of death. I decided these thoughts weren't of a typical 8-year-old when I asked other 8-year-olds and they didn't seem to be asking the questions or attempting the answers.
Trying to figure out why I was here, I would ask questions about the world and why things were the way they were for some and not others: why were some in pain and suffering, why some were born into it, why some were rich or poor, and why some died young while others lived.
My dad and I would ask these questions as we walked in a park that I basically grew up in. We would discuss things like God, and the mysteries of life together and still do today. We would discuss experiences; like how one can feel someones' gaze though they have their back to the person. We decided that we were predisposed to being neurotic or highly sensitive.
At some point before 8 years, I knew I had been able to choose my parents. I even had a "memory" of being in a Toy R us, but the memory was in an aerial view above the shelving before I was born. I could see my parents picking out a teddy bear under the fluorescent lighting in the warehouse-like building with white and grey walls and concrete floors. They told me that they bought this bear to be my mom's focal point during labor. They eventually gave it to me and it became my safe object. It was the item I clung to at day care when my parents were at work. It was the bear I would need to fall asleep at 3 and 4.
In order to be a memory a person is present, so if I wasn't born yet, then how was I able to see Toys R us?
These are some of the questions I write to you about...the things I have answered for myself and other questions still unsolved.
God love you,